What ever happened to finesse?

Ok so lets keep it 1Hunnit...Swag is such an over used word now that it is pathetic. Its like an opinion, everyone NOW has swagger. NEWSFLASH! Most of y'all don't. Y'all just emulate what someone else does and call it your own. You probably wonder why I am bringing swag up when my expertise is sexuality right? Well whether you know it or not, this swag phenomenon extends to the bedroom and relationships as well. For some odd reason people equate swag with cockiness and in dealing with sexuality, that shit is lame because sex is as unselfish as you can get.

You are giving YOU to someone else. You not doing nobody a favor by giving them your dick or pussy- it’s a fair exchange. Don't get it twisted, I am not saying freelance the dick and puss- you are supposed to have a air of confidence in the bedroom. The thing that swag does is it cripples you sexually because you are still in character of this "person" you project yourself in the outside world to be. In the bedroom & in relationships you are supposed to be you- your authentic self. If you can't be you then who the hell are you? That is where finesse comes in. Finesse is being subtle and delicate in whatever it is you do. When you can finesse a person, you get a whole lot out of the sex, the relationship and the person. How do you think pimps have hoes??? (Ok ok…bad example but you get what I am saying. Lol.)

The point is that swag shit is going to get you a lot of headaches and attract all kind of "lesser beings" to you because they are there for the glitz and glam. Finesse taps you’re your authenticity- be and do you. God forbid you slip in the bedroom and your performance is lacking (shit it happens... to some lol)- there will be no understanding because your swag character probably talked all kinds of shit about how you were going to make their toes curl. When you are "swagged out" you aren't seducing anyone but yourself and you will have a lot of nights with trifling ill intentioned people in your bed or your pocket pussy or vibrator. Learn the art of seduction by oozing finesse- that is what people with substance are drawn too. Now if you want someone that lives in BET land and not the real world, go on ahead and "swag it out".