Serial Monogamy

I have been in quite a few conversations about relationships and everyone for the most part thinks that if you are not monogamous, you are not in a relationship. How could you sleep with someone else and be in a relationship with another person? That's low down and triflin' right? The question was asked- "Could you be in a relationship with someone who was open in telling you that they would want to occasionally sleep with other people?" I would estimate about 98% said no, if they cannot only sleep with me, they don't love me or they are not ready to commit. In the words of the Diva Tina Turner- "What's love got to do with it?" Why must a person's love be limited to only one person as if love is a tangible thing like money or food? The more you give out, the less you have to give. Love is unlimited and has no boundaries so where do we get this theory of if you love them then you can't possibly love me?

I bring this up because I found it odd that people think that as long as you are in a "relationship"that gives the okay to have sex. If you aren't in a relationship and going from partner to partner then you are labeled a dog or a whore. My question is this- what do you label someone that goes from relationship to relationship and feels that the number of people they have slept with is justified since they were in a "relationship"? Aren't they no better from those who bounce from one person to the next without the "title"? If you want to keep it 1 hunnit (Paige Lingo) neither are able to commit. A person who jumps from relationship to relationship are just in a relationship to have companionship & get laid until the next best thing showing comes along. This is referred to as serial monogamy. Its hard but its fair.

I am not pro sharing BUT wouldn't you rather know that hey they may occasionally sleep with someone rather than people looking at you in the streets like "Damn, s/he are so clueless?" Not only that but so you could better protect yourself and it will definitely give you an incentive to stay on top of you and your partner's status when it comes down to STDs. Just because you have a title doesn't mean a person is committed to you. Commitment is defined as: The state of being bound emotionally or intellectually to a course of action or to another person or persons. That has nothing at all to do with sex. Commitment is way deeper than just the physical and people need to realize that. The physical is the icing on the cupcake but it is not what defines or defiles a relationship. A relationship should be defined by the common goal that each individual has and how by coming together they can each become better person.

If you have been bouncing from one relationship to the other and you have left the same person that you were when you entered it- gone 'head and take a "L" for that one. That was a waste of time. Now sit back and think about how many relationships you have bounced from and how many notches you have put under your belt? Learn how to look at things in its simplistic form rather than in exaggerated terms in life period other wise there will be a lot of "the pot calling the kettle black" going down!