Earned- Not Given

Ok So as you see the whole month of September was non existent here at The Brilliant Cut- so I apologize in advance...BUT I'M BACK SO LET'S GET IT POPPIN'!

Now that I am done with my little disclaimer lets get to the premise of this blog which is one of my favorite topics to rant about- DATING. As much as I would like to dedicate this blog to the mere fact that people don't date anymore.... they just f*ck and say okay, we are a couple... I am not going to do that (at least not right now!) I really want to touch on the fact that when you are being pursued by someone in a romantic way, people think that you HAVE TO be nice to them. Now I am not talking about nice in the way of being cordial and civil, I mean nice as in doing what they ask you to do for them when they have not earned any rank yet! I find this to be most common among the "beautifully and handsomely fortunate". It comes off that because they are attractive they just think all they have to do is show up! Now this may be true in the case that you are being pursued but when the tables are turned, the ball is in the court of the person you are pursuing.

Plain and simple, if you ask someone to do something, don't look at it like they HAVE TO BECAUSE YOU ASKED THEM TO. If they say no, it is not the end of the world- step your game up, make yourself irreplaceable so that the person sees that you are worth it. Personally, if I am dealing with anyone and I don't see their worth, they are all for self and what they want and I don't ask them for anything yet they are constantly asking me to do things for them... I am rebelling. My attitude is simple- Who are you? Its hard but I know you guys will feel me on this. When it comes to the dating scene, all men are created equal. Time is a precious resource that I cannot get back so I will be damn if I waste it on frivolous request to appease someone's ego. NOT HAPPENING- especially when my ego isn't being stroked.

When you do something or adhere to requests such as for an example- not being loyal to faternity/sorority phamily or friends of the opposite sex, coming in at a certain hour when you are out with your friends etc., what you do is become a people pleaser. Now its one thing to please someone who goes hard for you because that is reciprocity. When someone comes in the gate and feels like how you deal with people, live your life is supposed to be compromised because now they have a interest in you "Houston, we have a problem".

The moral of this blog is simple. In life everything is earned, not given. It isn't about what the next person wants if you are being pursued, it is about what you are going to give them. Don't give anyone the power to coerce you into making them a priority, when you are still in deed an option.

-Game is for Those Who Listen ~book coming soon