Self Worth & The Single Life Part I

It's the holiday season so I must touch on this NOW. People get so wrapped up into this time of year that they slip into depression and stress because they don't have anyone to snuggle up with. Get the over that shit A.S.A.P.

Okay so what is up with the lack of self love that I see displayed in a lot of women when it comes to their choice in a mate? What I mean is that a lot of women I know settle just so that they can say they have a man. I don't understand that but then again I don't have any issues with being comfortable with me and I have no problem with being alone.   The question is "How can you be with a man when you can't even be with yourself?" Who is going to want to be with you if you can't stand your own company? A lot of women measure their worth based on how many men approach them or how many men can they have calling them etc. I had one friend, if no one trying to holla at her... she ready to go. Ya'll know what I am talking about too. And then when they finally get a man....they like whoever like them. No preference what so ever... oh I am sorry... he has to have a dick! lol. Then they get in these toxic relationships that are based on nothing but shallow factors that at the end of the day that don't mean nothing. They are so worried about how he look and what he got, that how he treats them isn't important anymore. A lot of women, I am finding out are not even looking to be respected because they disrespect themselves so much.

Let me keep it 1 HUNNIT!  YOU hold the standard and you have to make who ever that wants you rise to YOUR standard. People will always treat you like you treat yourself. As women we need to check ourselves first... what is it that we really want. You cannot turn a booty call into your man.. I repeat, you cannot turn your booty call into your man. Leave that where its at. If you decided that's all he is good for, leave it like that. We set ourselves up in so many ways for upsets in relationships. We get a raggedy guy, and try to fix him... dust him off, clean him up and for what? ... So he can look good for the next chick. 

People always show you who they are, ladies we have to just stop talking so damn much and just sit back and watch. God gave us discernment, how about you use it.  The bottom line is this. Before you go off the deep end talking about what all a man has to be to be with you, make sure that if Mr. Right comes that you will be his Mrs. Right. Check yourself first and he will check himself before he steps to you, if he is worthy.  You have to have standards, if you don't you become like the majority, stuck in a relationship where you have no loyalty to this guy because you can't see yourself with him. Ya'll gonna learn about "Mr. in the meantime", trust me. I am only speaking from experience from both sides.... where I am now and where I was. Oh yeah and ladies remember its not about Quantity but it's about Quality. I just hate to see ya'll settle for less. Aren't YOU worth waiting for?